Two steps to successful time management.

Still feeling rushed?  This post is a continuation of the last two and it is all about taking back control of your time. We first looked at assessing your Logistical Container as step 1. Sometimes an easy tweak to your schedule is all you need to stop being late and start being productive. But when it’s not, tap into your Inner Leader as Step 2, because far too often even when you are the Queen of your calendar, you can easily disconnect from your vision, and your thoughts where decisions become misaligned.
So, what happens when you are working your calendar, you are listening to your Inner Leader, and you still just don’t have enough time? You’re late, you’re rushed, and you’re frustrated because you just can’t seem to get it all done.
This is where I found myself after starting my business. I felt organized, I felt like I was finally living my purpose, yet I still couldn’t find the time to get everything done. And I was frustrated.
And then one day during a workshop, I was asked a few questions that changed my perspective on time.  Through these questions I realized my beliefs around time were holding me back; it wasn’t my circumstances, but it was my mindset. I knew other successful people also had children, families, appointments, commitments, obligations, a cold, a headache, or a bad night sleep, and they were still getting amazing results.  My excuses were just that. 
So, I dove in deep to Step 3: Shift Your Mindset.
My excuses were based on beliefs that were no longer serving me. And until I took time to examine my thoughts, continued making decisions based on my limited perspective. A new perspective shifted my mindset.

The first step to shifting your mindset is to become aware.

Here are 14 questions to gain awareness about your relationship with time.
Get specific, get detailed and think of examples when answering the questions below.

  1. Where do you spend most of your time?
  2. If time were a person, how would you describe your relationship?
  3. On a scale from 1-10, with 10 being most often, how often do you feel like you do not have enough time?
  4. On a scale from 1-10, with 10 being most often, how often do you feel like you are rushing around? 
  5. If you answered 7 or above on question 4, what are you rushing around doing?
  6. How does rushing around make you feel on the inside?
  7. How are you perceived by others when you are rushing around?
  8. On a scale from 1-10 with 10 being most often, how often do you feel like you are late to appointments? 
  9. If often, how does it make you feel when you are late for appointments?  
  10. On a scale from 1-10, with 10 being most often, how often do you get sidetracked from the tasks at hand?
  11. Where do you desire to spend your time each day?
  12. Pretend you have a free day to do anything you would like. Break out your day hour by hour. 
  13. Pretend you have the ability to design your workday so that it worked for you. Break out your day hour by hour.
  14. What are your beliefs around time in general (and that came up for you during this exercise)?  

Next turn your negative phrases into positive ones:

Once you are more aware of your relationship with time, determine what beliefs are no longer serving you and turn them around. As you know, I believe your thoughts create your reality. What you think is how you behave and how you act. You can change your mindset with consistent positive self-talk. Go to question 14 and look at your beliefs about time. If they are negative, turn them into positive statements.
Here are some examples of negative beliefs that drive our actions:

  • Time management does not come naturally to me
  • I’m terrible at time management
  • Successful people are busy
  • Time is never on my side
  • I’m an awful planner
  • I never have time to do what I want 

The turnaround: 

  • I am naturally talented at managing my time in all areas of my life
  • Time management feels effortless
  • Successful people spend their time where it matters most to them
  • Time is on my side
  • I’m in control of how I spend my time
  • I always have time for the things I want in my life 

Right now, these phrases may not feel real for you. However, stay committed to the process. Think about how each statement is true for you in at least one way. Put them on sticky notes and read them as frequently as possible. Begin reading your statements in the morning and at night (and during the day if you can).  Try this process for 3 weeks and stay consistent.
Time management is a foundational tool for thriving. When you are in your power with time you gain clarity, you feel more confident and you positively connect with those around you. Time is all perspective and when you shift your mindset at the subconscious level you can let go of the drama around time and instead have time on your side.   

To your Success,

Tired of Being Late? Then take this step first.

I hate to admit it, but for the majority of my life punctuality and I were not on the same team. And I found myself apologizing even daily for showing up late.

And then I read an article a few years back claiming that running late is actually a sign of creativity and optimism. Man, if only I could have embraced this perspective and went on with my merry lateness! But I couldn’t because my lateness was not very merry.  I was rushing and stressed, and I knew that there were others relying on me.  If I were late for my own date, maybe I could have embraced my optimism!

But, the truth is that there are others involved and my lateness was affecting their time as well as how I was showing up and being received.

Time-management is so critical to effective communication because it affects our clarity, confidence, and connection. When you rush you are more apt to lack the focus and presence you desire in meetings and conversations. And when you are late your time appears more valuable than everyone else’s time, which leads to distrust and lack of connection.  Everything we do creates meaning and stories. The same goes for being late.

And so I set out to change my ways. I made not being late a non-negotiable, and I began a process that changed my perspective on time, not even knowing that I had one.

So are you tired of being late?  If so, here is the first step to consider when thinking about changing your ways.

Step 1: Start with Your “Logistical Container.”

Work from the outside in.

Going “within” is all the rave these days. And I’m on board. However, I also believe there is an inspiring practicality to starting on the outside and taking a look at what structures are working and which ones are not.  Sometimes small changes can have big impact.

Quite possibly there are a few structural tweaks you can make that will change everything. Here are some to consider.

  • Schedule your meetings or time blocks for 50 minutes opposed to 60.
  • Schedule in 10 minutes of prep time for each event.
  • Set 30 minutes the night before or in the morning to prepare for the day.
  • Have your materials ready to go for each meeting or event for easier transitions.
  • End your meetings on time and communicate your hard stop to everyone involved.
  • If based on past evidence you know a meeting will run over and it’s out of your control, plan accordingly.
    • Let the facilitator know that you have a hard stop, or
    • Don’t schedule anything immediately after this meeting, or
    • If you are going to be late to your next meeting, let the people affected know about it as early as possible.
  • Take a look at your calendar and see whether you can time batch or time block. Align your tasks and meetings so there is more flow.
  • Communicate to your team when you are not available so you can focus your time and increase productivity and be fully present and available during scheduled times.
  • Take time to organize your office and clear your space.
  • What can you eliminate, delegate and automate so you can free up more time for what matters most?

This is step is about becoming aware of how you are spending your time and what changes will bring more clarity and flow to your day.

Next week I will be sharing Step 2 and we will start to dive deeper because after all, effective time-management is a process. Sometimes our beliefs around time go a whole lot deeper than our calendar and our space.

To your success,


From Passive to Powerful Leader in 3 Steps

Do you ever wonder how one leader makes a decision fast and with ease, while another hesitates and stresses? Or how one leader appears to confidently make hard decisions in the moment, while the other unwillingly makes a decision or let’s the circumstance decide for them?

So what separates the powerful decision maker from the passive one?

What I’ve learned is that, well, there are a lot of components that come into play. But, what they all trickle down to is this one question: What do you believe is going to happen as a result of your decision?  It comes down to your perception of the outcome.

If you have a clear picture of success, you will more likely trust your judgment and move on. However, if you have a clear picture of what could possibly go wrong,  you begin to question and stay attached to the situation. You are unable to let go and move forward. You become invested in its failure.

Let’s look at this a bit more closely. A leader who makes decisions with ease is typically certain of their decision. They feel confident in their judgement.  They have an understanding of what they want and what it will take to get it. And they are willing to take risks and course correct until they arrive. 

So they are connected to their vision, they are certain of the outcome, yet they also have the ability to embrace the potential obstacles and distractions that may appear along the way.  They don’t let doubt cloud the outcome.  

And as a result, they are engaged, they understand what needs to be done, they are aware of their priorities, they let their intuition guide them, and they are able to stay above the fear and doubt when they surface. In this space they move from being a passive participant to more assertive in their interactions with others. There is alignment between their inner drive and outer presence.

On the other hand, when you experience stress when making decisions you may feel misaligned with your values (something doesn’t feel right), you may focus on what can go wrong rather than what can go right, and/or you may be connected to a vision that isn’t your own, but instead is what you think it “should” be.

And as a result, you lack clarity on your priorities and let others’ expectations, rules, and opinions guide your decision making. This misalignment leads to passive communication; you rarely share your voice, you are reactive, you appear compliant, but are internally defiant, and you mold your answers and comments to the expectations of others.

So how do you move from passive to powerful as a leader?

1. Reconnect with your vision and be honest with your desires. Ask yourself, where do you want to be in one year, in five years, and when you have reached your destinatino? Get clear on what this looks like and why this success is important to you.

2. Make decisions and take actions aligned with your standards. What is important to you in your life? What are your non-negotiables? And what standards will drive you? Get clear on what’s important so you can set your boundaries.

3. Be assertive in your conversations to ensure you get your point across, listen, course correct, and continue moving forward.

Stay committed to these three steps on a daily basis so you can make fast decisions at the moment with ease, create the success you desire, and unapologetically stand in your power.

Embrace Your Style as a Leader

Stepping up as the leader of your business and career is an amazing opportunity. You get to be awake in this world.  Your business and leadership become a vehicle for positive change. You bring your vision to life through your voice and through your expertise.

So why is it that sometimes running a business, leading a team, finding clients, building momentum can feel like you are pushing a boulder up a mountain?  You know, your mind is telling you that this all seems impossible, it’s hard, it’s not fun and your body is starting to feel the exhaustion. It becomes easy to think that this complexity is the reality of the business world; Leading is hard. If we had more time, we would accomplish more, and if we had more money, we would delegate. We would have more balance and freedom if only… However, if you are not showing up in a way that is aligned with your leadership style, no matter how much time and money you have, business and life are going to feel hard.

Your leadership style is key. And your leadership style is YOU. For about 10 years of my career, I felt as though I operated on a “false platform” in which I unknowingly tried to fit into leadership. And from talking with many high-performing women in business, I realized I was not alone. When you think about making an impact, spearheading a movement, leading a team and stepping up to share your message, you can begin to think you need to adopt a new set of leadership traits, strengths, and habits to succeed.  And this is what led to my false platform. I thought to be taken seriously I needed to learn how to become a leader.

This way of thinking actually held me back.

Leading is not hard, trying to lead is hard. When you let go of fitting into a certain style and instead embrace your own, you find your power. You make decisions that are aligned with your vision. You create a leadership platform that is versatile, flexible, connected and true to you.

Transformational leadership begins when you can own your leadership lifestyle. So let’s dig deeper than the standard leadership styles and start with YOU by simply becoming aware of how you desire to show up. Here are five questions to get you started.

1. How do you communicate best?

Do you feel most confident when working one on one, in groups, on stage in front of an audience, in writing, over the phone, video? When you think of communicating your message, what makes you feel energized and what feels constricting? When you embrace what medium you like best, you can start asking yourself “why” and dig deeper. What strategies can you put in place so that you can communicate most confidently and effectively? And what fears, if any, may be holding you back from stepping up your communication.

2. How do you prefer to work?

Do you feel energized when you work with a team? Do you prefer to process alone and then bring your results to the group? By understanding your optimal work environment, you can confidently set boundaries, communicate your preference, block out time for processing and embrace your standards that will get you the results you desire.

3. How do you make your decisions?

Do you prefer to bring your ideas to fruition on your own? Do you generate your opinions and then ask for feedback? Do you ask others for opinions first and then make decisions? Or do you prefer to present the data and make decisions as a team? If you desire results and confidence in the moment, know your preferred decision-making process and let others know it as well.

4. What does your ideal day look like?

Where do you want to be spending your time? How do you want to feel at the end of the day? What would you work on and when? Get clear on when you feel the most energized, the type of work that lights you up rather than triggers stress, and what is and is not working for you now so you can proactively design your day and stop being reactive to whatever comes your way. This creates space for staying aligned with your leadership style.

5. How do you want to be remembered?

What do you want the people in your life to remember you as and by?  This is a guiding question for me, personally, because in all transparency I can let my “hard” work programming sometimes get the best of me. This question brings your strengths, core values and your standards for living to the surface. What is most important to you and how can you carry that with you in your day?

When you connect to your strengths, what drives you and your desires you set the tone for your people – your team, your clients, your tribe, your family – to do the same. This style can be transformational in your business and in your career. After all, your leadership style is rooted in how you show up in life, not just at work. And you are most effective when you infuse your experiences and wisdom into your leadership. When you start with self, rather than molding to a certain style, you no longer feel linear and stuck in your approach, but rather set the foundation for growth, risk, and momentum as a leader.  You become transformational over transactional.

Stepping up as the leader of your business and career is an amazing opportunity when you embrace YOUR leadership style.

To your success,


Two Simple Techniques to Take Back your Time

When it comes to completing tasks or projects, how efficient are you with managing your time? Are you in the zone and super focused? Or are you still attempting to simplify your approach and find the focus you desire? I am not a big believer in the process of multitasking and doing and thinking about multiple things at once, so I focus on batching and time blocking as the ways to increase my productivity and get things done with more focus and flow.

What are Batching and Time Blocking?

For those of you that may not be familiar with these concepts, implementing and mastering these concepts may be your secret weapon when it comes to productivity and mastering your day.

Batch it!

The concept of Batching is concentrating on a cluster of tasks at one time – more simply put, working on tasks that are similar in nature. So, what’s the secret to this success? These forms of work allow the brain to stay in the same mode for the tasks that need to be performed, thereby focusing and being more productive as the result.

Here’s a simple example, one of my tasks I perform weekly is the content creation for social media and these blogs posts. This consists of generating topics, writing copy, and finding images for my posts across social media for each day and aligning the theme with my weekly newsletter.  These tasks are all connected and similar in nature. In the past, I worked on content creation when I could – at night, before a meeting, or before the kids woke up.  Many times I felt scattered and reactive and would lose track of my messaging.  I spent more time refocusing than actually moving forward, and as a result, I wasn’t consistent with delivery and often times went weeks without sharing my message. Then one day I received an email from a woman on my mailing list, whom I didn’t know, saying “Hello? When we can we expect your newsletter?”.  I took this as a sign that it was time to prioritize this task by batching the process together, rather than finding time each day to work on it, and as a result, I have found consistency and flow.

When you have the ability to concentrate on similar tasks, and the brain is able to concentrate and focus, not only are you able to be clear about the task, you are able to be more efficient and productive and feel more confident about moving forward.

Things to watch for – Distractions will KILL this concept. The biggest distraction for me are those pesky email notifications that slide through on my computer screen or “ding” on my phone when one comes through. The solution for me was to shut off all notifications on my phone and email, permanently!  I check my phone and respond to messages and emails on my time so I can be present in the moment.  Letting go of the “dings” was a tough habit to break, but I quickly learned to be more conscious about where I spend my time, and where I am being reactive over proactive.

Why Batch similar tasks:

  1. Efficiency – bouncing around from task to task breaks any type of momentum
  2. Energy – moving from task to task, or even multitasking requires more energy. Most tasks, as a result, are not getting completed or are done poorly
  3. Focus – what do you lose? YOUR FOCUS

Such a simple yet effective process.

Block it!

The concept of Time Blocking – it is a type of scheduling that can help you manage your time. If you don’t schedule something, it is most likely not going to happen.

Time Blocking consists of two parts: Breaking down your workload and setting up your schedule.

Part One – Breaking Down your Workload

  1. Prioritize – what are the most important tasks that need to get accomplished and completed each day. Make a list of your top priorities.
  2. List Work Activities – make a list of your typical tasks you perform in a workday. For example, emails, phone calls, marketing, prospecting, etc.
  3. List Non-work Activities – make a list of your non-work related activities. This would be spending time with your family, exercise, time with friends, etc.

Part Two – Setting up Your Schedule

Last week, I gave you a word document of a simple planning sheet that I use. If you missed it, get it HERE. In the document, you will notice, this is not based on time but based on blocks for the actual tasks.

When are you most productive? Utilize that time for tasks that either require more time or may be a harder task. I am more of a morning person, so I am more productive in the morning, however, creatively, I like to block time for content creation at night, when the house is quiet and peaceful and I am IN THE ZONE.

The rest of your day can then be blocked out for those specific tasks. So, back to those pesky emails. I block out 3 times a day for emails. I spend only that time reading and responding to emails.

Bonus Tips for Time blocking:

  1. Consciously decide how long you will you need to schedule each block, from start to finish. Many times, we schedule for the bulk of the task, but do not take into consideration the time for set up and completion. For example, we schedule an hour-long meeting but do not schedule even 5 minutes for prep or 15 minutes for writing up our notes from the meeting and any other follow-up action. Or we schedule a trip to the grocery store but do not consider how long it will take to unpack the car and to put the food away. How long will these tasks realistically take?
  2. Save the easier or mindless tasks for the end of the day. After a super focused and productive day, the last thing at the end of my day is to start a new block of tasks that require mental energy and focus. Allow time in your day to complete tasks that do not require a lot of critical thinking.
  3. Add the blocks in and get it into your calendar. Yes, you have to SCHEDULE it on your calendar, set a reminder if you need to or an alarm to notify you when you are done. Without these gentle reminders, it may be easy to get derailed.
  4. Schedule “Empty” time. Schedule a block of time without tasks. Create space for opportunity, reflection, creativity, and simple flexibility. Scheduling “empty” time is one of the most critical factors in creating success. This time is where the good stuff happens; it is where we come up with our best ideas, we become available for connection when we least expect it, and we find clarity.

For the majority of my career, I didn’t take my schedule seriously. I got things done when I could and focused on the priorities of the day. This led to a busy, stressful and overwhelming work life that carried over into my personal life. I was reactive to what was happening around and within me. When I began to consciously implement time batching and blocking into my calendar I could feel the shift in how I spent my time and how I felt. There was a sense of proactiveness, power, focus, clarity, and leadership when I took the reigns of my schedule. And if I can do it, you can do it.

To your success,


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Your Mind is Not Your Secretary

I’m sure we have all been guilty of “trying” to remember something, only to fail. I don’t have to tell you how many times I have had to retrace my steps because I forgot to do something – that’s right I didn’t write it down. So, why do we do this? Why do we put that undue stress and anxiety on ourselves?

Is it because we feel like we do not have time at the moment? Are we that scattered in our day?  Do we believe that we will honestly remember when the times comes? For me, this is a yes, yes and yes. Not always, but when I am in the grind and on the go I sometimes find that I am overly optimistic about my ability to remember. And then I forget.

So, why write things down?

  1. Freedom.Your mind is not your secretary. When you write something down, you free up the task from having to remember it. Why not spend time on more meaningful things?
  2. Organization. Writing things down shapes your thoughts. It helps you process and analyze things.
  3. Clarity. Visually when you can see things on paper, your vision is clearer. It becomes easier to see where your plan might need to be rearranged, eliminated or expanded.
  4. Time: Oftentimes we do not make note of something in the moment because we feel like we do not have the time or capacity. However, we end up spending more time trying to remember what was on our mind and retracing my steps. Not making our mind our secretary creates the space for more time in our day.

Writing things down and not using your mind as your secretary is a powerful habit. It is the key to effectiveness and getting things done. Here are three habits that can help you:

  1. Portable. Keep a pen and notebook in your purse or bag or having a running list on your phone. When you are on the go, you will always have the means to write something down so you don’t forget in the future. My best ideas come to me in the shower, of course. But you get the idea.
  2. Brain Dump. When I go into plan mode, I get my white board out and just start writing ideas down. Then I can step back, evaluate, develop and implement the ideas that align with my plan while delegating and eliminating others.
  3. Journal. Expressing thoughts and emotions in writing has a direct link to improved mood and well-being as well as decreased stress blood pressure and depressive symptoms. When we write down what is on our mind we are able to release catabolic energy and create space for more momentum.

Calendar & Planning Exercise. Each week I block out up to an hour to plan my calendar. CLICK HERE for my planning calendar.  I block out times based on high-level categories. So, for example, some of my categories for my business are Business Development, Marketing, Office, etc.

Once I have this planning done, I update my online calendar where I can carve out the specific times that I am going to complete those tasks. Here is the most important step. Block times for specific activities, and stick with the plan. Turn your calendar into intentional blocks, and put activities into those blocks. If I don’t schedule time into my calendar, then it most likely will not get done.

Invest just a few minutes to an hour in planning your weekly and daily schedule. This will help you manage your time more efficiently and free your mind for more focus flow and freedom in your day.

To your success,


P.S.  Are you ready to step up as a leader in your business? Take the first step and connect to your business and leadership vision.  Because once you are connected to your destination as a successful woman in business, you can then more easily establish the essentials steps to reach your goals and take inspired action. And TODAY, Monday, July 31st, is the last day we are offering our Align & Prosper Mini-Intensive at a special summer rate of $197! Starting tomorrow the rate will return to $395. Claim your spot today to join Christy Venza for this one-on-one 90-minute virtual experience. Click HERE.

Setting Healthy Boundaries

Healthy boundaries are the gateway to our destiny and success.

What do I mean? Well, let me tell you a story about one of my clients – we will call her Jane. Jane is in her mid 40’s, a progressive business woman, smart as a whip with a heart of gold. Jane, however, does not set healthy boundaries in any aspect of her life. Because of this, she continues to be taken advantage of by family, co-workers, clients – basically anyone that has some sort of significance in her life. And can you guess? Jane is unhappy. Exhausted. Unhappy in love and life. So, why does Jane continue in this path? I asked Jane the same question and here is what she came up with – she didn’t know her limits.

Is this sounding a little familiar?

If you answered yes, my heart goes out to you. And I say that with love and compassion because this subject matter is where I was only a short few years ago. I’m in a better place now, but I was an utter mess not that long ago. I was burning both ends of the candle. My career was suffering. My family was suffering. I was suffering. I knew I had to make a change.

As women, we are the nurturer’s, the peace keepers, the problem solvers and with this inherent personality trait as people pleasers, it is quite easy to get into the trap of not setting healthy boundaries.

Maybe you are better at setting boundaries at the office, but lack the same skills in your personal life or vice versa. Maybe the issue is just with family. The key here is to acknowledge boundaries are GOOD. They are HEALTHY and NECESSARY.

So, where do we go from here? Let’s dig deeper for a moment here:

Name your Limits – what do you stand for? If you don’t know, there is no easy way to say this, but you MUST find out. A good place to start is to be in tune with what makes you stressed or uncomfortable.

Tune into your Feelings – This one may not be as easy to identify, but look at situations as a Red Flag or another way a Gut Feeling. This is YOU telling YOU – this is not good for us.

Be Direct – Getting issues out in the open is uncomfortable, no doubt. Communication is key to a healthy relationship.

Give yourself Permission – it is okay to set your boundaries even if someone doesn’t agree with you. It’s not Their boundary. It is YOURS. OWN it and give yourself permission to have that as YOUR boundary.

Be Assertive – Your boundaries are set, so now it’s time to follow through. Without this additional step, you WILL stay stuck in the same place. This is the GROWTH step. Yes, Hard; Yes, Uncomfortable; and YES, NECESSARY.

Get Support – Now I’m not trying to be insensitive here. This is easier said than done. So, I am not immune to the fact, that some will need support and guidance. Don’t think of yourself less because you need help. Asking and seeking help is a strong quality. If you need support, it is out there. Love yourself enough to get support.

What does this look like from a practical sense? Let’s start with an easy one.

1. Have a REGULAR bed time. Sounds simple, but here’s a little secret – this one is my BIGGEST challenge. Loves, you have to SHUT down. Consistency is key! If you are having trouble sleeping, take an inventory of your environment and lifestyle. Trust me, it can wait until the morning. If you are constantly struggling, there are tools and tricks that we can talk about to get you to a regular bed time with ease.

2. Do a DIGITAL DETOX. If social media consumes you, take a break. Just like giving your body a nutritional detox from food and toxins, do the same for your mind – give it a day, or better yet a week. Now, on the less extreme, have set blocks of time that you will focus on social media. I know many of us here rely on social media for our business, so this may be a little more difficult for you, but let’s be accountable here. You know when you are mindlessly perusing social media.

3. Evaluate Relationships. This one is without a doubt the hardest, but unless you are on a deserted island, people are just hard to avoid. So, ask yourself a few questions:

  • Do the people in your life support you?
  • Do the people in your life add value to your existence?
  • Do the people in your life love you unconditionally?
  • Do the people in your life accept you for who you are?

If you answered no to any of the above, these people may be toxic for you or not necessarily a person you want to invest too much of yourself. These would be the first people to set those boundaries with that we are discussing. Practice with them first. Know your limits with these people. Know what you will and won’t tolerate. Be vocal. If you are not vocal and express your boundaries, this opens you up to being taken advantage.

I hope this has been a bit of a wakeup call for you as I know it was for me. And as for Jane, she still struggles, but she practices. In this journey and with each area, she gets stronger. She gets more aligned with her vision for her life and her career. Her light is starting to shine.

To your success,


P.S. Here’s a little exercise that Jane and I used to get started:

Make a list of what you want, but don’t have in different areas of your life. Include everything from relationships, career, spirituality, home, and any other areas that are important in your life. Once you have that list, you can then determine what you will never tolerate in your life again, as well as your non-negotiables. If you need help with this process, it would be my pleasure to discuss. Contact me HERE – my Align and Prosper mini-intensive may be exactly what you need to get started in the direction right for you.

Manifesting Time For What Matters Most

What would your life look like if you had more quality hours in your day? What comes to mind?

Would you get more deliverables out the door?  More clients to help? More time with your family? Perhaps you would eat healthier or get more sleep. What about having more time for self-care in general, maybe even a massage or a manicure? Or how about all the above?

We all have those moments of “if only I had more time, I would __Fill in the blank__.”

So, what is your Why?

What is the first thing you would want to do if you had more time?

If you don’t know, it’s time to find out. Because knowing your WHY is the key to your success.

Your WHY is a desire. Even if it’s small, materialistic, unrealistic, one that may change tomorrow, or it is something you want more of in your life right now. And regardless of its importance, our desires enter our lives for a specific reason. When we can let go of judgment we have around them and lean into them, we can hear its message. They may be telling you to focus, connect, jump, or the opposite to shift your focus, disconnect from something or someone or perhaps even stay grounded.

When we do not take the time to acknowledge our desires, we begin to lose touch with the feminine power we hold as leaders. And as a result, we lose our flow. We begin to run on empty, we feel misaligned, triggered and stressed.  We feel as though we never have enough time.

When we train our minds to listen to our desires, we begin our journey to self-mastery. We start to overcome what we feel is perseverance but can be agonizing because we feel like we should or have to hold on. We begin to trust our decisions, know ourselves on a deeper level and bring more joy into our lives. Self-mastery is essential for being the successful business women we truly want to be.

Awareness around our desires and our vision is one massive factor that separates successful business women from average professionals; they are aware of what they desire and they spend time on what is intended, not forced. They learn to balance their passion with what works. And even in times of imbalance, misalignment, and overwhelm during stressful times in our lives, such as in the midst of launches or big life events, they remain aware and can feel the power in perseverance, and not the dread of barely hanging.

Tapping into your desires, opposed to repressing them, is the key. This connection unlocks the door to more flow and as a result of more time and freedom in your day. 

So, when you think about having more time in your day, what can you see yourself doing? With no judgment, no opinion and no concern about time or money, think about who you are with, what’s around you, what you see, feel, touch and taste.

When we are connected to our desires and we integrate them into our lives, our perspective around time can change. We begin to focus on what matters most to us and naturally begin to delegate and eliminate what is no longer serving us. You have the power to create the time for what you desire in your life.

Here are six steps to start finding time for what matters most:

Step One.  If you had two extra hours in your day today, how would you spend them? Name three ways you would like to spend your time.


Step Two. Name your desire, your WHY.  Remember this may change tomorrow or in a minute, and that’s okay. We are evolving and changing and the key is to become aware of your desires when they surface and decide on whether to pursue them or not.

Step Three. Why is your desire important?

Step Four. What would it feel like to lean into this desire more often?

Step Five. What will you need to let go so that you can connect to your desires on a more consistent basis? This may be a belief that is limiting you, a story you have been telling yourself about how you have to live and lead, an emotion that needs to be dealt with or something physical, like a relationship or career.

Step Six. Reply to this email and let me know what your top desire is in your life. By writing it down and sharing it with someone you will feel the power in taking a moment out of your day for you. This is the start of personal self-mastery. Honor you.

Begin to train your brain to notice your desires. Let them surface and be acknowledged. Give them fuel and energy. Intentionally create what you want.

To Your Success,

P.S. Summer is in full swing! This is a perfect time to gain clarity and begin honoring yourself and your desires so you build the connection and momentum you desire as you step into fall and year-end. Join me for an Align and Prosper 90-Minute Mini-Intensive over video or phone and create the clarity to connect to your vision and begin to step into your confidence for more inspired and intentional action. Register before the end of July to take advantage of our promotion (50% off!).  To learn more and register, CLICK HERE. 




Create Alignment by Speaking Up



Do you find that you are reluctant to say something because of the fear that you will be misunderstood?

If you answered yes, I feel your pain. Feeling misunderstood can leave us feeling powerless and unmotivated.  It can be flat out frustrating.

I’m glad that you are here reading this post. The time is now for you to step up, share your voice, and feel understood.  We need to hear your message, your point of view, your struggles, and your vision.  And by we, I mean your clients, other women, your peers, your loved ones, me.  When you do not raise your hand, share your story, and ask thoughtful questions, you are leaving opportunity on the table for connection and growth – not only for you but also for all of us.

In these moments of sharing your experiences and your points of view, you create the opportunity for meaningful change; for letting people know what you stand for and for connecting with like-minded people who find value in your work and presence.

You see, often when we have felt misunderstood in the past, we assume that when we put ourselves out there again, we will be misunderstood again. And as a result, we fear being taken advantage of, taking ten steps back, taking action that doesn’t feel right – all because it happened once or twice or 100 times before.

And this makes sense, right? Why on earth would want to put ourselves out there, express ourselves, if we felt misunderstood in the past? You have courageously been protecting yourself from what could be.

But I’m here to tell you that courage is about to look different for you.  Now is different than before. That was then; this is now. Just because it happened in the past, does not mean it will happen in the future. And you have the power to speak up with confidence so you can connect with those around you in an intentional and meaningful way.

Here are four ways to start feeling more confident using your voice, so you can feel understood and aligned with the message you are sending:

  1. Become familiar with your struggles. What is on your mind? What is holding you back? What do you fear? When you are comfortable with your struggles, you will be able to be present in your day and listen to those around you. When you listen, REALLY listen, to those around you, you will more easily find the opportunities to express yourself in a way that gets others to listen (really listen) and understand you better. What recurring doubts and fears are holding you back?
  2. Know that you create your reality. This perspective is meant to liberate you from any smallness in your life. We have all been there – we hide behind the scenes more than we hope to simply to avoid failure. However, when we choose to stay small we do not take the required action, and we lack the success we desire, which is the definition of failure. By fearing failure, we set ourselves up to fail. You create your reality by choosing how you show up and react to your everyday circumstances. Do you view speaking up as an opportunity for growth and success or do you view is an opportunity for embarrassment, failure, and feeling misunderstood?  Your answer determines your reality.
  3. The time is now. We can often find ourselves dwelling in the past and stressing about the future. And here is where we become distracted in the present. And in this distraction, is where we begin to disconnect from our vision and lack clarity around our message. How can we expect other people to understand us when we feel foggy about our own goals and intentions?  By thinking “the time is now” we can begin to train our minds to stay in the present and slow down so we can be more intentional about our conversations and actions.
  4. It’s okay to fail. I fail multiple times each day, and I’m finally okay with it. I was a perfectionist for years so wearing my mistakes did not come easy for me. But after seeing my mentors fail numerous times over the past couple of years and still thrive, I realized that failing is not something to avoid but to embrace. First, my mentors were putting themselves on a platform where the possibility to fail substantially increases. We can’t fail if we don’t try. Second, I connected to their mistakes and their vulnerability. Seeing the human side of them made me feel more connected to their work. I could relate. People want to relate to you. They want to feel like they too can speak up and course correct until they are felt understood. Lead the way.

We need you to feel understood because WE need your message, your service, and your highest contribution. When you feel like you are living your vision and people are receiving your intended message you will find the alignment you are seeking between who you are as a professional and who you are as a mother, friend, daughter, sister, partner, and woman.  And here in this alignment is where you find the clarity, connection, and confidence for creating the significance and impact you desire in business and life.

Start letting people know what you stand for with confidence. The more you speak up, the more you will be understood by the people who need your energy and message most.

To your success,